Pssst peeps, after the previous post about Jinky Pacquiao’s growing Hermes collection (which we are all drooling about now hehehe), Browneyedgirl posed this question! And it’s a pretty good one too! 🙂
Would you baghags stay with a husband who spoils you rotten with everything– yes, we’re talking being gifted with jewelry a la Ellen Barkin (who once had one of the best jewelry collections– she wore her JAR earrings in this photo),
(photo from Patrick Mc Mullan at the Vanity Fair Oscars party)
all the birkin colors a la Victoria Beckham (who has about 100 Hermes bags),
(photo from Rachpoot/ INF photo)
while he too, spoils himself by having other women in his life?
OR would you rather stay with a man who doesn’t have much to give but will remain loyal and faithful to you?
Now this is my answer, and it comes with a “condition” hahaha. I would rather stay with a man who doesn’t have much to give but will be loyal AS LONG AS he is not a deadbeat. But, if he has no drive or ambition to better himself in life, then I might as well walk away from the relationship and just stay single. I still have dreams of becoming a tai tai one day even if I have to stay single and work my ass off to be one (I won’t be called a tai tai if I’m single though, but I’ll call myself that anyway hahaha) *materialistic baghag alert!! hahaha*. But seriously, if you are just going to end up with a guy who just can’t seem to realize that he should try to better himself for himself (and not just for his family or his wife), then there shouldn’t be a reason for you to stay. Life has to change for the better– because that’s the very essence of life: to improve, and to evolve mentally, spiritually, physically (hahaha have lipo haha.. kidding!), emotionally!
And then one of my super hilarious friends laughingly told her husband not too long ago, “I wish I married Manny Pacquiao“. *muwahahahhaha!!!* (On a serious note, I admire Jinky because if I were her, I don’t think I can watch my husband get beaten up, or beat someone up to earn money. I’d probably have a nervous breakdown! Sooo, I will probably just hang out in the hotel room and wait for the fight results. Which would then make me a bad wife hahahaha. Hats off to Jinky, she’s really a strong woman! :D)
What about you baghags? I’d love to hear what you have to say about this 🙂 Thanks Browneyedgirl, for raising such a good question to ask on a Monday (when I am usually brain dead hahaha) 🙂
Can’t wait to read what you peeps have to say! Have a good one today!
x
Mrs. T
I have the same sentiments as you Mrs. T, it doesn’t hurt that your husband is not swimming in money, but you have his loyalty..as long as he has the drive/ambition to maintain/recognize his responsibilities. I would choose that over a thousand birkins/chanels.
I completely agree with you. I would rather be with a man who will love me and remain loyal to me but he has to be a hardworker – someone who can also take care of me and our kids. He doesn’t have to be a millionaire (although it would be nice), but someone who is goal oriented and ambitious. After all, love is not going to put food on the table, roof over your head, clothes on your back…
Can’t have the best of both worlds… it’s really common in our society to have a lot of women running after moneyed men (married is no exception)… and men, naturally with their macho image, are flattered by the attention. So this flattery makes them an easy target of temptation.
What can I say? I’d rather stick with the faithful one (as long as he has a backbone). The unfaithful will drive me sick and cause me unwanted wrinkles. (Maybe, that’s why Jinkee loves Belo. She needs all the help she can get to mask the pain showing in her face.)
Hi Mrs T. Love, honesty and respect could not be bought. I would rather have that than all the Birkins or Kellys in this world.
I have gone through dishonesty and lavish gifts….gifts meaningless I still lonely and worthless at the end of the day.
-MD
hi mrs t!! thanks for posting my question! i’m so thrilled 🙂 and to answer my own question (and i might ruffle some feathers here)… i think i *might* go for the ultra rich but unfaithful guy who can lavish me with anything as long as he still comes home to me every night and his affairs are top secret and not out in the open. i know, i know, i’m shallow. i’m bad… hey, but then again this is just an imaginary situation. i don’t know either how i’d react in real life if confronted by infidelity.
Money can’t buy you happiness. I’d rather have a faithful husband with not so much (same you Mrs T, as long as he’s not a deadbeat). Sure you can have everything, bags and all that, beneath all that and as thoughtless you want to be, can you stand the unfaithfulness and just turn your head the other way?
I don’t know about her much, but I admire her for being strong. I don’t think Jinky will ever leave Manny even if the chismis are true (or not)… IMO.
I’m a bag hag wanna-be too, so my future husband better work his ass off to buy me bags hahaha!
hi mrs t, here’s my answer to the question:
I think materials things should remain as they are…tangible and replaceable. When the sanctity of marriage, the respect for family values, the peace of mind, and your dignity as a woman are violated, no amount of money or 100 birkin bags can compensate for that =)
U should admire jinky bec she stays w manny inspite of the girls. The latest is krista ranillo who is in the states w him. I think i m like her. I cant leave without my material things. As long as he is still trying to deny n hide it haha. CHIBS
to answer the theoretical question I would probably not put up with infidelity. stroking the luxurious leather of my many hermes bags will not make up for the heartbreak and loneliness of infidelity.
but if the question is pertaining to jinky’s specific situation, i would stick it out to protect the financial interest of my kids. she stuck it out when manny was a nobody. dapat naman siya and yun legitimate kids nila ang makinabang sa pinaghirap ng family nila. too much money to just walk away.
Hi Mrs. T! I would rather stay with a man who doesn’t have much to give but will remain loyal and faithful to me (BUT) – maybe, well, maybe… Even if he’s not like a major bag giver in every special occasion, maybe even once, he can gift me with “my dream bag”. Hahaha! Even just once – it would mean a lot because even once would make it so special. 🙂 Just my 2 cents.
P.S. My fiance isn’t really much into giving material gifts at all. But when he told me that he’ll be getting me my “dream bag” next March as an engagement/ wedding gift, I literally cried. I know, I’m cheesy. Hahaha! But I guess wow. Who would have thought right? 🙂
Hi Mrs. T! I would rather stay with a man who doesn’t have much to give but will remain loyal and faithful to me (BUT) – maybe, well, maybe… Even if he’s not like a major bag giver in every special occasion, maybe even once, he can gift me with “my dream bag”. Hahaha! Even just once – it would mean a lot because even once would make it so special. 🙂 Just my 2 cents.
P.S. My fiance isn’t really much into giving material gifts at all. But when he told me that he’ll be getting me my “dream bag” next March as an engagement/ wedding gift, I literally cried. I know, I’m cheesy. Hahaha! But I guess wow. Who would have thought right? 🙂
@ Anon re dream bag: That is soooo sweet of him! you know, at the end of the day, it’s always that thought that counts– the effort is there and it should be lauded 😉 And hehe, congratulations on your impending marriage to your Prince 🙂 *awwwww* 🙂
@ Anon re makinabang sa pinaghirap ng family: I agree with you completely there. Jinky deserves all that 🙂
@ Vhanya: True, true too. I guess also it must be more difficult to make that decision once kids are in the equation no? Esp. regarding Jinky’s situation. I do hope it’s not true 🙁
@ CHIBS: Hahahahahah, well thanks for your honesty! I think I can relate to you somehow too. Discretion is necessary or else all bets are off? hahaha.
@ appledumplings: I totally admire Jinky as well. It’s not easy to “look away” especially if your husband leads a very high- profile life.
@ browneyedgirl: thanks for asking that question! In fairness, I can understand where you’re coming from. It’s really different when faced with infidelity. Everything remains theoretical until something real hits. I don’t think our theoretical answers can really prepare us to act when something like this happens in real life.
@ MD: I’m so sorry to hear that 🙁 Again, it’s difficult to be in that situation when it does happen. I hope you are in a better place now? Material things somehow become immaterial when something that devastating happens. So I see your point. I think no amount of material things can erase something so traumatic as lies and deceit in a relationship, especially one that is very meaningful.
@ Leah: So truuuue re: getting wrinkles hahaha !! But sigh, wouldn’t it be nice to have the best of both? hahaha …I do wonder though, why it’s sorta still “acceptable” in society when men cheat as long as they “provide” for their wives. It’s really baffling, isn’t it?
@ Camy: I share your answer 🙂 If I have a deadbeat husband, I’d rather just get a divorce hahaha.
mrs. t, yes, its difficult when there are kids involved, but you have to consider what type of example you are showing your kids by tolerating such behavior from the husband. you know kids naman, monkey see monkey do. it might do more long term harm than good. besides, kids are really smart these days, you can’t fool them anyway. well, just my two cents =)
i still wish the best for jinkee and the kids. she has been through so much already. let’s pray for her =)i think no woman in her right mind would want to go through what she’s experiencing right now.
I’ll have my share of frankfurters too while enjoying all the birkins, kellys and diamonds!!!! hahaha
Hi Mrs T,
*Gasp.* I didn’t know about Manny and his ‘girlfriends’. That’s terrible. And as for the question, I’d rather stay with a faithful and loyal husband who will give me the love and care I truly need than be with a ‘wandering’ man.
It’s so sad the predicament that she is in. I guess the grass always looks greener on the other side. I guess now that I think about it, I feel a bit sorry for her.
Can you post your new bag ??
I am with you Mrs. T. I agree with your answer. It all boils down to KARMA—for the unfaithful husband, the mistress/other woman and the martyr/kawawa wife. I don’t know if you’ve heard some of the older folks say “Hindi araw-araw pasko!”.
On another note—off-topic—I just noticed that your “last bag purchase was 1 day” ago. I guess that means you got your blue Chanel (forgot the exact shade). Congratulations! 😀
@ May- Hem: Hehehe Yes! I finally got her, as I replaced her with the purple Chanel jumbo which I sold (sob). I love the color of this royal blue Chanel too much– and thing is, I also saw the caviar version but it’s nowhere near gorgeous. The lambskin version is the bomb! 🙂 And re: Karma, I totally agree with you. We can’t judge really, because the Man Up There has the final judgement at the end of the day 😉
@ hannikae: I will post photo of new bag tomorrow 🙂
@ MaryD: I actually didn’t really know about the “women” as well, until I was told about these rumors. I just hope they’re not true. Poor Jinky. She deserves to be happy.
@ Vhanya: yeah kids are smart now. I guess better they not feel “torn” and confused by giving them the truth! you’re right!
@ Anon re frankfurters: hehee..
hi Mrs T!
I’m swapang with my stuff, so i guess I wouldn’t want to share my husband/bf with anyone else… 🙂
Bags and other material things don’t hug back and won’t take care of you when you get old.
It’s just sad (if true)that this girl is going after money, ahem, i mean manny.. 🙂
what good are the bags and jewelry when your marriage has been utterly destroyed? it’s lying to yourself to say that those material things can replace or even alleviate the necessary feeling of grief and anguish you and your kids will have to bear. children are very intuitive; they catch on whenever there’s tension between their parents. and i will never trade my children’s peace of mind and heart for anything material. ANYTHING.
Mrs T, I totally agree with u! I grew up in a family where my dad would womanize and leave my mom in agony. I married a husband that is loyal and honest ( he has the looks,a bonus) we are not well off ( I cant afford a Hermes) but some tiny luxury in life we can afford. His integrity and love for his family is his good qualities!
@ sumkindamama: Woohoo to you 🙂 Yes, I agree, it’s really going to wreak havoc on your life and your children’s life if the father or mother is a philanderer.
@ Anon re intuitive kids: Well said. I can’t agree with you more on that.
@ Louise: LoL you’re absolutely right. Bags and other things never hug back. When you’re old and gray, they won’t do much comfort anymore.
of course almost everyone would want to have a faithful and loyal husband even though he does not have that much to give.
but when i gave a more thorough thought of it, what if you are already married with an ultra rich husband who showers you with material things, shows you affection and still goes home to you but has another girl… will i divorce him? i won’t! just being honest.
I don’t think manny will leave Jinky for any other girl.